One of the ladies in our group on Friday night had a very good point. It is hard to understand that our value comes from who we are and not from what we do especially ever since childhood we’ve been praised for a “good job” or given allowance for the work we did in the house. Deeds = Value.
How then do we raise our children to have a full understanding that indeed we are valuable because of the one within and because of the royal inheritance we have from being children of the King and not from the things we do?
We don’t give out an allowance in our household. The kids have responsibilities within this home because it is their home and they are a part of the family. Don’t worry they are not in lack. Right now they’re getting plenty of “tooth” money! 🙂 My hubby wants to start rewarding them for bringing home good report cards, perfect test scores, reading books and doing book reports, doing extra homework in the study guides we bought, etc. Will this just reinforce to them a value system that I am trying so hard to break in the older generation? I know it is important to encourage them on the jobs they are doing. How do you do both?
I do not want my kids to go through the things I have seen many adults go through; insecurities and perfectionism are two of many. I have seen many broken people come through our doors; many were people who suffered from performance issues. The first time they met us they listed off the things they’ve done for “the church” or for the Lord. It sounded like a job interview and they were uttering their spiritual resume. When we didn’t recognize many of these gifts/talents… they were off and running to the next church down the road. That cycle will continue in their life until they fully surrender and unfortunately it can be a character trait that passes down from generation to generation.
That was a bit of a bunny trail… I said all that to say this. We can still learn a lot from that small group of Scriptures in Luke 10:38-42. Don’t get so busy that you put God on the backburner. What can start off so innocent as putting something ahead of church service or prayer night or even tithing — just a few times — things will get back to normal soon — it’s a sacrifice I’m making for a short time so I can get _________ done — can lead into a pattern and become a lifestyle sooner than you think. Time passes fast and before you know it those days have become weeks and can lead into months or years. I know from which I speak.
Martha, Martha, Martha — Thanks for the lesson in life!