When you’re the lead couple in a church ~ you get very used to people coming in and out of your lives. Sometimes I feel disappointment, sometimes I feel used, and sometimes it down right hurts. Sometimes I know the time was right for them to go, sometimes I am glad to see certain people leave (I know that’s bad but the truth) and sometimes I know that what they are doing was not what God had planned for them.

When we were first married this kind of rejection was too much for me to take. I thought I was going to crumble inside out the first time a couple that was really close with us abruptly departed. We went from being in their wedding and all that bliss to feeling like we had been struck upside the head with a 2×4 within months. We sat numb with birdies swirling around our heads for weeks. I didn’t know how to deal with the pain and hurt so I thought developing “thick skin” was the way to go. I thought, “I just won’t get close to people ever again!” This obviously wasn’t what God wanted from me and He quickly let me know that He would send me friends. He’s so good isn’t He?!

Since then others have come and gone and come back again. I don’t hold a grudge against anyone who has hurt us by leaving on a sour note. Sometimes I wish I could run away too… One time someone who was leaving said something to me along the lines that I didn’t want them to go for selfish purposes. You know at one time in my immaturity this probably had a hint of truth in it but I rely on way more than emotions for the answer. My hubby and I have a pretty good relationship with the Father who knows all – from the beginning to the end. We rely on Him and His take on things.

For many people who have come through our doors, God has given me a picture of what He has instore for them but it was put on hold by them. I heard this expression this past spring and it has rung in my ears eversince, “Prophecy is God’s intentions based on our obedience.” I have seen how we can help some families and how some families need to find somewhere else to be helped. I know we are not everyones “cup of tea”. We are not perfect and will never be ~ thank God… could you deal with that much pressure under that expectation??


I'm the Cool Mom of 4, Married to the Preacher Man, but at times I'm a little more Sass than Saint!

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  1. My best friend is a pastor’s wife and she’s had to deal with some of the same things. I feel for you! I think some people expect pastors and their wives to be perfect…and when they realize they are just people, too, maybe they are let down a bit. I hope everything works out for this family you are dreaming about!!

  2. I remember the day you guys moved accoss the street from us. I had prayed that someone with kids would move in and that they would be good friends for not only my kids but for me too. I thank God that he put you guys in our path as we would not be where we are if it was not for your kindness and guidence. Thanks for being a really good friend.

  3. I thank God for you both as well, Sean moved from toronto to be apart of my life and apart of the church too!!!

    If he didn’t have support and good leadership he wouldn’t be the dad he is today.

  4. I have seen you guys grow alot, and so have we. The journey we are on is one of family and love. You don’t leave the ones you love because they said or did something that you don’t agree with.

  5. You guys lookin’ for a youth pastor? or a worship leader? heehee.

    I know what you mean. But mostly it’s us leaving places. We lived in one area when we were dating…then we moved when we got married…now we’re off again. It’s sad really. I’d love to find a church and stay for years and years.

  6. ya I know what you went thru and also have seen growth in you and your church!

    I will be at Tammie’s later today if you want to call there!
    love ya

  7. It must be hard. But think of all the lives you have touched and made a difference in because you were faithful and allowed God to use you. Just knowing that you are a vessel for our Lord should help it just a little. 😉

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