Good friends are hard to find, even harder if you knew my life and my schedule. Some days are plain insane!
Most nights of the week we are not home for one church thing or another and on top of that this year we’re trying to let our kids have fun (outside the church) too. We’re out almost all day on Sundays and my hubby likes to keep things quiet on Saturday evenings. (Did I mention I have 4 kids who are 8, 6, 4, and 17 months and I work part-time at a Credit Union and I do the church books, bulletin, Sunday school, greeting, women’s ministry, teaching, and traveling with my hubby for Pastoral functions?!)
I can honestly say that my only night of the week where I know I will have the van (we are trying to live within our means and only have 1 vehicle at this time) is Mondays. One day a week I get to do what I want to do. This night however ends up being my grocery shopping or cleaning night… this is also a hint to all my friends out there reading this… MONDAYS = GOOD NIGHT TO CALL AND GET ME OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!
This year (like my plans last year) I would like to make more time for my friends, which happen to be mostly within the church (it’s just a lot easier) but I do have a few outside the church. These few friends have got to be the most patient people I know ’cause many a month goes by before I get a chance to see them (we do e-mail frequently) – unless they pop by my place that is.
I have one girlfriend left that I keep in touch with still from high school days (graduated in 1990… yikes!). None from my days in College and University. None from my working days that lead up to my wedding. When you live just over 5,000 kilometers away from “home” it makes it a tad difficult… My one girlfriend and I e-mail from time to time, she lives in New York City now and is an up and coming artist (with a couple of famous brothers I might add) and whenever we manage to crash into one another, it’s like time has stood still. I admire her and she me and as we grow and mature our relationship continues to develop.
I knew when I moved here that it would be like starting over. Stranded was one feeling I had at one time. One of my friends here (outside my church) reminded me of how miserable I was back then, I had a lot of change to adjust to and it wasn’t easy. I’m still adjusting – to a lot of things!!
I’ve had to learn (and am still learning) how to wear both the leader and friend hat with those inside the church. That one has me frustrated and stumped at times. I haven’t been too successful with this in the past. I am learning to just keep my mouth shut in situations where an opinion is not wanted ~ just an ear. But how long do you do this??
Honestly, I am truly thankful for the friends I have ~ sometimes I’m just plain surprised they’ve stuck around this long…
What do you look for in a friendship? What would constitute a “best” friend in your books?