Have you ever heard that phrase or even said it yourself? “Hey, I was just kidding”. How’s this for a conversation… Someone sees you giving someone a gift, that person comes up to you while you’re giving the gift or soon afterwards and makes an off-the-cuff remark, “You never gave me anything….. just joking. I don’t care.” What is the truth behind that persons statement? I truly believe offence is one of them…
I’ve never been a fan of this type of communication. I know I’m not guilt-free from doing this myself and again I know it’s mostly used as a defense mechanism. I want to say something back or react at something and not sound cruel or serious or mean or even hurt. That’s probably the biggest one…. a reaction to a hurt. I want to change.
The Scripture that leaps to mind (one of a few) is, “For out of the heart ~ the mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45 Your true being brims over into true words and deeds. I know words are important but just as important are the words you choose at the moment you choose them. Why are you saying what you are saying?
Another reason for using this phrase is under the guise of deceit. Trying to mislead or trick someone. Proverbs 26:18-19 in The Message says, “People who shrug off deliberate deceptions, saying, “I didn’t mean it, I was only joking”, Are worse than careless campers who walk away from smoldering campfires.”
What we say and how we say it and why we say it is important. Doesn’t it say somewhere that on judgement day we’ll be held accountable for every idle word…
I’m not saying that no one can ever joke around with me ever again. Humour is one thing – this is a whole other thing.
What causes a person to constantly communicate this way?!